Tonight, the club is completely packed and a lot of very hot women are surrounding the dancefloor. You look amazing, you took care of yourself before hanging out and now it is your turn to be the hero. Here you are! You went to this club to meet women and you may not be going back home all alone.;) Hold on a second, the reality is that you are scared! You do not feel very confident and you are not the kind of playboy we can see in the magazines. Do not worry you will have a great time!
1. First of all, ask yourself “what is the worst case scenario?” and then “Can I handle it?”. You will actually figure out that it is not a big deal if you do not find a woman to dance with or even if you miss an opportunity. Be sure of something, tonight hot women are here ready to find someone that is attracted to their sexy gestures and moves. They want to have fun! Then, visualize you as a playboy, a guy that does not care about what others think of him and a guy that is going to be surrounded by girls before the end of the night. Always imagine your objective in your head before approaching women. See yourself successful or…lucky. This will make you feel more confident;)
2. Let’s go, dance, have a lot of fun, enjoy. You have to show people that you are having a good time and you are already happy. Women are already wondering “who is that guy over there?” and they will start dancing closer to you. Women look at the way you move your body on the dance floor. They actually evaluate a man’s sexual performance through dancing, just as guys do! If a guy feels very comfortable dancing and having fun in front of everybody, women imagine that he is certainly very comfortable and at ease in bed with a girl.
3. Relax! Feel comfortable. Once you found the one you like, look at her in her eyes, keep dancing and smile. If she answers you with a smile too, approach her. Be careful; never approach a girl from behind. That would make her feel bad, you want her to see you. Face her or approach her from the side. You can ask her to give you a “high five” and then catch her hand to spin her around… Women love that and it makes them smile.
4. Play around with her, slow down your movements. Show her that you know what you are doing and act like a confident guy. Briefly touch her in incidental areas of her body to get her comfortable with the idea of being touched by you. When you see her becoming very emotional and having a good time, take her hand and bring her somewhere more intimate. Start talking to her. Ask her opinion on a particular subject for example. Women love when people ask them what they think.
5. Whisper into her ear “you are very, very cute”. Then banter, you can tell her “do not look at me like that, I am not a peace of meat” (c) Kevin Salas. You can keep on talking, but after 5 minutes tell her: “It was nice meeting you, I am going back with my friends, they cannot live without me” and turn around for a few seconds then come back to her and give her your phone and tell her, “just put your phone number here”, smile. Make sure it is easy (password inactive, keypad unlocked…). If she says no, tell her smiling “go ahead just put your number in… You seem safe… I will send you the funniest text message ever… but it is only funny if you laugh”.
Amandine Afonso
